Wing Man Commands

First, is there a way to designate a ground target other than padlocking it for "Engage My Target"? I discovered that Padlocking it works, but it makes the plane hard to fly while padlocked. If you are over the target and try engage ground targets, they always seem to go off and attack the nearest air defense, why have the engage air defenses command if they are just gonna do that anyway.

Second, is there any way of designating the weapon you want them to use like the Engage With command in A-10C? Given a choice, they always seem to go with bombs without that command.